When Rejoicing is Bittersweet

My favorite Christmas song is a very old carol … “O Come, O Come, Emmanuel”. Its haunting sorrowful tune reminds me that our greatest rejoicing is often entangled with sorrow. More than any other hymn, this one has the ability to make the hairs on my arms stand up at […]

Learning to be a Good Wife

I’ve been enjoying a fabulous marriage for a whole two years. They have been packed with illness, deaths in the family, divisions between loved ones, drama, chaos, 90-hour work weeks, children under foot, never enough money … Basically, all of the stressors that cause marriages to tank. QUICKLY tank! This […]

In the Middle of Yielding Control

Last week I was listening to a beautiful song called “Remember Me as a Time of Day” by Explosions in the Sky and someone asked me what time of day I was. I said that I was the dark night of the soul. I recently texted three people that although […]

Embracing the Present is Hard

Her somewhat toothless grin makes me giddy. I can’t help it. I just want to eat her up. I keep checking on her left top tooth. Her gum is swollen where the tooth will soon appear … at least I think it will be soon, it seems it’s been on […]

Sometimes Dreams Don’t Come True

Sometimes dreams don’t come true. Now all of the optimists and encouragers shake in their seats, wanting desperately to tell me there is still time, that my dreams might come true, that I should not give up. And they are right. All of you are right. I’m not quitting, but […]

Couple’s Therapy with God

So for about three weeks now, my relationship with God has been in the repair shop. It’s not a major fix like a broken transmission or blown out engine. Nor like Jacob wrestling with God. (Although I’ve been there too.) It was more like couples counseling. You married peeps understand this. […]

Life Has a Way of Getting in the Way of Living

I’m a sucker for 90’s chick flicks. So when a friend invited me over to avoid a normal day’s responsibilities, to make fancy food the kids won’t touch, and veg on the couch in between courses with the Runaway Bride, how could I resist? A problem with commitment In case […]