Rewriting the Rules in My New Decade of Life

A couple of years ago, I turned 40. With the advent of this new decade of life (and some time under my belt), I’ve learned a few things. Now I’m rewriting the rules for my middle of life.

Thankfully my life experiences are shaping me, growing me and changing me into a better woman. As a woman solidly in the 40something category, I'd like to share some of the ways I'm rewriting the rules in my new decade of life. Because making it to the middle of life is no small feat and rules what served a girl well in her twenties, just won't cut it anymore. I want more.

I’ve learned a few things about my body.

*It’s a harder to drop the weight, but the glass of wine, goat cheese and crackers are worth the extra steps. Know the difference between eating for joy and eating to cope.
*I still have the ability to make boys smile. Never mind that they are my sons and they smiled because I took a turn or two on the slip ‘n slide with them this summer. Their smiles are worth more.
*The gray hairs aren’t so bad. Especially when you cover them up with purple.
*Teeth are priceless. Literally. I have the dental bill to prove it. Take care of them early.

I’ve learned a few things about friendships.

*They are worth the effort. Find your tribe and invest in it deeply. You will reap invaluable rewards for doing so.
*Write notes for no special occasion and mail them to your friends. They will always arrive at just the right time. They arrive in your mailbox too.
*Coffee is better when there are two cups, even if you don’t chat over them.
*Miles only change the friendship if you let them. When physical distance happens, work harder to make sure spiritual distance doesn’t.

I’ve learned a few things about marriage.

*It is the hardest thing you’ll ever do.
*You will learn more about yourself through your marriage than almost anything else you will ever be involved in.
*It requires a lot of strength and dying to self, but also vulnerability and self-preservation.
*If you can make it work with your spouse, you’ve done no small thing, and if you can’t, that was probably no small thing either.

I’ve learned a few things about freedom.

*There is always a price to pay for it. Whether on an actual battlefield or in the battlefield of the soul; someone, somewhere pays for it.
*I’ve learned that if I want to be free, then I need to let other people be free too.
*I’ve learned that I am my own worst tyrant.
*The worst cage is fear, and I am usually the one with the key to it.

I’ve learned a few things about happiness.

*It doesn’t look anything like what I thought it would.
*Happiness is fickle, but joy has staying power rooted in hope.
*I’ve learned you can only ride on the happiness of others for so long.

I’ve learned a few things.

*Accept my body
*Love more deeply
*Live free
*And before this next decade is over? … Expect to learn a few more.  

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Sasha Johns is the wife to one amazing chiropractor and mom and teacher to 3 little well adjusted kids. She runs her own little cottage business True Vine Gifts where she repurposes wine corks into beautiful jewelry and home decor. It reminds her daily that Jesus redeems her too.
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Sasha Johns is the wife to one amazing chiropractor and mom and teacher to 3 little well adjusted kids. She runs her own little cottage business True Vine Gifts where she repurposes wine corks into beautiful jewelry and home decor. It reminds her daily that Jesus redeems her too.

  • Love this! Especially this – “Miles only change the friendship if you let them. When physical distance happens, work harder to make sure spiritual distance doesn’t.” – I live an hour away from all my closest friends, but we still find a way to make it work. 🙂

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