Graduation, wedding and birth announcements flooded my Facebook feed. Suddenly, I realized – my life is changing. My kids are both out of the nest, but my heart continues to yearn for God’s best for them.
Praying for our adult children is different and challenging from our prayers for them as littles. The old adage rings true, “When they are little they step on your toes, but when they are big they step on your heart!”
Not only are they no longer underfoot, often you have no idea exactly where they are at all! While the day-to-day responsibilities lessen as they grow and mature, not a day goes by I don’t feel the need to plead for their favor before the face of the Almighty God.
The only problem is what to pray.
I know the way I’d like to see their lives progress, the milestones I look forward to. But what direction would the LORD have them travel? What milestones does He expect?
My youngest recently graduated with a Bachelor’s degree from the University of Alabama. He plans to move to New Jersey. He will pursue his lifelong dream at the Kubert School which specializes in cartooning and graphic art. I have prayed over this decision since he was in middle school. The Lord opened specific doors along the way, making these decisions not only possible but feel like the way he should go.
I continue to pray my son uses his art for the glory of God and find ways to serve and honor Him through his work.
My daughter’s education began as an engineering major at University of Alabama. She learned invaluable life lessons about herself, work ethic and how much fun there was to be had at a party school along the way. She struggled for awhile and eventually left school, going to work full-time for a few years. Then she started back at a state school to get her GPA back up.
I am proud to say she graduates with her Associate degree this December. And she made the President’s list with a 4.0 this semester. In the meantime, she excelled at a part-time job and has now been hired full time. She is gifted in math and has found a passion in the biostatistics field. Lord willing, she will complete her Bachelor’s Degree and more while she is there. Despite her aptitude for math, the Lord blessed her with solid interpersonal skills. Her kindness and Christ-like behavior gave her favor and success in her work. Her ability to minister personally with the older participants in the study resulted in her superiors taking notice and giving increased responsibility and promotions.
Neither career is what I expected, but the Lord led them step-by-step through their successes, and even through their failures. They are both in places they are excited to be and are looking forward to making a difference in their respective communities.
One of the earliest examples of a godly parent of adult children reminds me how to pray:
Getting up early in the morning, he prepared entirely burned offerings for each one of them, for Job thought, Perhaps my children have sinned and then cursed God in their hearts. Job did this regularly.” Job 1:5b
Job knew the life of a young adult is full of learning opportunities and mistakes. He spent time praying for their well-being and favor and mercy for any mistakes they made either willfully or by omission.
What an example for us as parents! It is easy to allow ourselves to push our children in their adult lives and even in their spiritual lives. Feeling we know what is best, we justify our own desires for their lives without concern for the bigger picture of what God may have in mind for them. Job allowed them to live their lives but prayed fervently for their well-being and favor with the Lord.
Another example is of Samuel foreshadowing the life of Christ in Luke 2:52.
Now the boy Samuel continued to grow both in stature and in favor with the LORD and also with man.” 1 Samuel 2:26
Praying for our adult children is essentially the same as prayers for our own lives.
Lord, let there be less of me and more of you today!
It is about pouring our heart out not for an easy life or just for their worldly success but for solid relationships with their FATHER and those around them.As your children grow up and leave home, how do you continue to pray them?Click To Tweet
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